A big deal is being made about how much weight Renee Zellweger has lost.

She was known as a slightly chunky actress in her role in the Bridget Jone's Diary.

Which do you think is a better look for her, the thin or the chunky?

I went through a great deal of my childhood with a victim mentality.  It sort of happens by accident.  No one sets out thinking to themselves, "I am going to allow myself to take a victim mentality."  It just sort of creeps in.  The circumstances of life seem out of control and a person feels they have no choice but to sit back and be victimized by life.

I was no exception.  I thought I had no control and no ability to change my situation.  One day in my childhood that began to change.  I remember the moment.  I don't remember how old I was or where I was at.  I just remember thinking in my head, "I am not a victim."  It was a turning point for me.  I can't even tell you what prompted me to understand I was allowing myself to be a victim.  It was just a moment of self-discovery.  At that moment, I was taking responsibility for my life.  At the moment, I wasn't aware of the significance of that moment.

Every time that I thought my circumstances were too great, I repeated that phrase.  I didn't want to live the life of a victim.  I didn't want life to happen to me.

I must admit I have had to start repeating that phrase in the last two years.  It is easy to let those old patterns of victimization to creep back into your life.